Your 20’s are a confusing time. You’re not a kid any more, you’re not an adult yet. At least most of us don’t feel like one.
One thing I’ve noticed about 20 somethings is the worry. We worry about our relationships, our work, university, the future and quite often the past. We’re stuck in the middle ground between thinking we know everything (as most teenagers do) and realising we know nothing. The world seems chaotic and none of us fit in. It’s the time that we’re told we should be focused, have figured out what we’re doing with the rest of our lives and everyone seems one step ahead of us. We judge our success by comparing ourselves to our friends Facebook updates or grades on a piece of paper that we worked 3 years (at least) for.
I want to share a little secret.
Coming from someone who missed the memo that uni was essential, a self confessed trouble maker that can’t seem to follow instructions or do anything simply (But who is finally on the right track), ignore what you’ve heard.
It’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing yet.
It’s okay if you’ve not done as well at something as you thought you would.
That’s life. It throws problems at you, not to ruin your plans but to teach you problem solving skills and toughen you up. This is what your 20’s are great for. It’s the time you stop relying on other people and start taking responsibility for yourself. You’re going to make mistakes and it might be bad, yes, but nothing is permanent and it’s never too late.
It’s okay to be selfish. Not the ‘run anyone down if they’re in my way’ selfish but the, ‘I need a few hours alone’ kind of selfish.
People will enter and leave your life and that’s okay.
You will outgrow people and people will outgrow you, it’s all a normal process.
I won’t give you advice of what to do or when to do it, that’s on you. Just give yourself a break. Worrying is normal. Growth involves struggle and your experiences will be good and bad but you are learning.
The one thing I will say is take every opportunity you’re presented with, never stop learning and never stop asking questions.
Ageing is inevitable, growing old is a choice.